January 26 2004
Thai girls vs. farang girls

Farang men often fall madly in love with the first Thai girl they meet - even if she's a rough street prostitute who doesn't speak English. Love-sick farang men are queuing up at the altar to tie the knot with their dubious Thai mail-order brides but why don't farang girls stir their passions in the same way?
Thai girls and farang girls could hardly be more different. Put simply, Thai girls are family-orientated and farang girls are increasingly career-orientated. In America, 44% of women aged 15 to 44 have chosen to remain childless and the trend is gathering pace. It's easy to understand their point of view because, as men, we've always pursued our ambitions.
Farang girls enjoy opportunities that their Thai sisters can only dream about. In many ways, life in the West has never been better but it doesn't seem to have translated into greater human happiness. We are witnessing an epidemic of relationship breakdown. Western men and women seem increasingly ill-matched and unhappy. Statistics reveal that dissatisfied western wives are divorcing their husbands in ever-increasing numbers and they can't seem to find suitable replacements either. Does this mean that we farang fellas are all useless?
No, of course it doesn't and I'm going to explain why. Despite the far-reaching changes in western society, the underlying attitudes of men and women remain broadly the same. Men still have a provider mentality and women still have an entitlement mentality. Men have always been attracted by youth and beauty and women have always been attracted by wealth and status. Inevitably, the mismatch between our utopian aspirations and the situation on the ground has created problems.
For the sake of his self-esteem, a man needs to be the breadwinner. Taking on the domestic role makes him feel like a failure. Women, on the other hand, feel uncomfortable in the role of provider. A woman would quickly lose respect for any man who appeared to be living off her. Women still feel entitled to a partner more successful than themselves. Consequently, the more successful a woman becomes, the harder it is to find someone suitable.
On the face of it, men are more easily satisfied. All a man needs is a girl who is cute and kind-hearted. Career status is unimportant - it's her personal qualities that count. He needs to be her protector and hero. A brash career-orientated woman will never excite a man's passion. If she's pretty, he might humour her for long enough to get into her pants but a long-term relationship is unlikely to succeed.
Women who don't touch a guy's heart but who have soaring expectations are never going to find husbands. Men seeking unconditional love and respect from aggressive ladettes are never going to find wives. As a result, more people than ever are living lonely single lives between brief affairs. Throughout the western world, we are seeing explosive growth in the number of single person households. In the UK, for example, census data reveals that the number of single person households grew by 14% between 1991 and 2001. An unhappy world of selfish people living alone is now becoming reality.
Returning to the original question, I think that many farang men fall madly in love with a random Thai bar girl because they've never met a truly feminine woman before. Men feel a deep need to care for these needy fallen angels and to receive affection in return. Even when the affection is insincere, the compulsion is so great that few farang guys can resist. Thai girls play the role perfectly (See In praise of Thai girlfriends). They wield a power over men that their farang sisters have forgotten how to use.
[Posted to Relationships by David]
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