May 8 2004

Three faces of female sex-tourism in Thailand

A dirty old man groping a Thai teenager is the media's favourite image of Thailand but, away from the neon of Patpong and Pattaya, beach resorts like Ko Phi Phi are home to farang sex-tourists of a different gender.

At first sight, these places don't appear sleazy - and, of course, that's the whole point. Women abhor sleaze. For them, paid sex can only take place in a romantic setting, under the guise of a holiday fling, and there are plenty of guitar-strumming Thai gigolos willing to assist them - at a price. It might not be extracted today, it might not be extracted tomorrow but, before our farang girl's holiday comes to end, the account will have to be settled. Just like everyone else, Thai gigolos have to make a living.

Not surprisingly, though, female sex-tourism a very touchy subject. Here's the view of a farang girl who, rather confusingly, calls herself Nong.

I've never heard of a western woman having to pay a Thai man. That's ridiculous. Thai men have asked me out and when that didn't work some resorted to offering me money.

"Nong" has never paid for sex but she must be walking around with her eyes closed because there are certainly plenty of farang girls who have. They deny being sex-tourists, of course, but how else do you describe a tourist who buys sex? Lesbians tend to be more honest but it's hard to make feeble excuses when you spend your entire holiday paying go-go dancers to lick you out (See Farang lesbian lust in Thailand).

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Recently, another face of female sex-tourism was revealed to me in the foyer of a friend's upscale apartment building. I'd forgotten his apartment number but was getting no joy from the receptionist. Fortunately, a stylish young Thai fella who spoke impeccable English came to my aid.

As the receptionist struggled with the various dusty ledgers, I noticed that my Good Samaritan wasn't alone. His female companion was an elderly but rather well-preserved farang woman. The scowl on her face betrayed an impatience to get the handsome young lad upstairs. When I shared the lift with them, however, she was pouting and giggling like a horny teenager.

Another elderly farang lady retired to a lavish house in a remote border region of Thailand. She happily admitted to paying the local village boys for sex. Her grown-up sons and daughters were appalled but she dismissed their concerns as nonsense. She was well into the autumn of her life and had decided to enjoy the remaining years in her own way.

These women are obviously enjoying their harmless bit of fun and I wouldn't dream of criticising them for it. Many farang girls will admire the daring of these unconventional ladies and some might even wish them luck. Don't hold your breath, though, because they'll never condone farang men behaving in precisely the same way.

[Posted to Farang Life by David]

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Readers' comments

John says:

There is something cowardly and creepily disturbing about you and your voyeuristic approach to life. You sit in judgement of Thai-Farang society low-life, when you are obviously a part of it, albeit all take and no give. Your article about visa runs sums you up man: "lost days". That says a lot about your perspective on life. Why don't you go and get one !

May 8, 2004 1:50 PM

Marmite says:

Had a sense of humour bypass, John or are you American?

May 8, 2004 1:59 PM

mr peter says:

What is cowardly or disturbing about an article on female hypocrisy about paid sex in Thailand? I can never understand the expression 'get a life' especially aimed at someone living it up in Bangkok, I would have thought that IS the life many of us would love, me included. If you don't like the articles and find them disturbing John, err why do you read em?
The only thing I find disturbing are the pics David finds of the falang ladies, jeez they really put me off my breakfast.
Women go all over the world to pay for sex and even marry locals bringing them back home. Marsai warriors, Turkish waiters and fishermen from west africa seem to be favourites.-peter

May 8, 2004 2:05 PM

John U says:

I'm with you 100% there Mr.Peter.

I would add that locally we have two shop assistants who are in the processs of bringing back a couple of big black guys from the Carribean.

A bit more understandable than small pricked Thais I would have thought.

Please don't confuse me with the previous "Get a Life" John

May 8, 2004 2:54 PM

Dark says:

Dear Guys,

Farang Women paying young Thai studs for "lip service" is ignored by self-righteous guides like "Lonely Planet" who are too busy trashing heterosexual Men.
Everyone has a sexual nature but few of the FemiNazis admit this.
The first letter by "John" is shite, either he's a Feminazi posing as Man or a SNAG (Sensitive New Age Guy).

Dark

May 8, 2004 9:50 PM

slurp says:

Does "John" rhyme with "Nong"? There's a limerick in it somewhere.

May 9, 2004 11:10 AM

Combover says:

Actually - having been reading the latest edition of Lonely Planet during the last few weeks, I can say that it is really not as sneering or judgemental as it was in the past.

May 9, 2004 4:55 PM

Cynic says:

John U

Sounds like a pretty bitter comment aginst Thai men there. As a man I don't expect you to think or understand women (and I don't profess to either) but I think you're over estimating female interest in cock size. If it was about that then explain to me why most of these Thai whores will often spend there hard earned on rent boys and Thai "girlfriends" are usually giving your money to their Thai boyfriends.

Life and relationships are a lot more complex than " me like big cock"

May 10, 2004 9:54 AM

Crash999 says:

Have certainly seen Western women paying for sex with a Thai woman. Same with Thai women paying for Thai women, and Thai women paying for Thai men.

Yet Nong believes that Western women never ever pay for sex with Thai men. Seems like she needs a dose of reality with her morning coffee.

May 15, 2004 11:03 AM

big mike says:

Agree with CYNIC.

If the Thai girls were financially secure and only out to find love, I'm almost certain 99.9% of them would select a Thai male over a Falang.

So, can someone tell me where I can go to have sex and get paid too? ;-)

May 16, 2004 2:53 AM

TANAI KWAI says:

BIG MIKE:

Have to disagree on that 99.9% estimate.

I think there is a certain population of Asian women who prefer farang men, pragmatic considerations aside. This kind of reverse-fetishism is not that inconceivable. But there is no reason to believe that this would be more than a small minority. The primacy of cultural bonds in Asia seems pretty obvious.

Agree with Cynic that a big penis is not the draw some horse-hung hombres might imagine. (A slightly larger member, however, is powerful weapon and induces heart-felt love within seconds.)

(...)

May 16, 2004 5:53 AM

STFU says:

I-Khwai: As if you didn't know; your farang-Asian "relationship" would be over in a New York minute were it not for your money. Regarding your well-known preference for large members; keep that shite (and all of your other shite opinions) to your faggot-ass self!

May 16, 2004 8:21 AM

TANAI KWAI says:

STUF'D,

You are obsessed with me, aren't you? Can you remember the last time you posted anything that didn't pertain specifically to me? (Except of course at www.mydogexcitesme.com)

If you were able to put two words together it might be a little flattering. But you have yet to contribute to any thread in any vaguely redeeming manner.

Of all the people I would not want to trade places with in relationships, money, looks, smarts, and too many other categories to mention -- you, STUF'D, are jockeying for first position along with one or two other poor bastards.

What with your all-consuming hatred for "faggots" (gee, what might that suggest?) I think we may just have a winner.

(winky)

May 16, 2004 10:43 AM

STFU says:

There, there. OK, I'll stop posting about you and your boring posts. Only because your replies bore everyone even more! If you're half the man you'd have us believe you are, you won't reply to this.

May 17, 2004 3:29 AM

TANAI KWAI says:

STUF'D,

A little too close to the bone, eh? (They always want to call a truce when you hit a nerve.)

So... why do you hate homosexuals so much? Any particular reason?

(winky)

May 17, 2004 4:37 AM

Chopper Harris says:

Tanai. You're a self absorbed, patronising cunt. Kindly fuck off. Back in my day, the Kings Road was full of fuckers like you. Couldn't hold their drink, talked a good game. Always left ten minutes before the end to get on the empty bus. Your type aren't worth the steam off my piss. You're Tanai penny.

May 17, 2004 6:15 AM

TANAI KWAI says:

Chopper Douchebag,

You liked the "steam off my piss" quip from last week, did you?

"Back in your day?" Christ, just how old are you anyway?

"Patronizing" -- yes, guilty.

Condescending -- no doubt. Hard to avoid with cretins like yourself.

But I quibble with "self-absorbed," having tried my damndest through a kind of vulgar Socratic midwifery to make YOU and your ilk interesting.

It is you, you drink-addled pocket-pool champion, who is absorbed with me.

I do find some of your vernacular (when you aren't lifting it from my posts) interesting, however. If you would leaven your comments with more of your homespun observations you could have a shot at being tolerable.

(winky)

May 17, 2004 7:40 AM

sunglasses ron says:

oh chopper lad, lovin it, lovin it........

tanai penny! tanner a twat more like!! what a sphincter this shitpig is........ i'd love to see him in midfield against you, he'd be all wind and piss,then run off to hIs mam at the first hint of a tackel

fur coat no knickers, little eyebrows, mother up a tree somewhere type....... where was he in 85 eh eh eh eh???

shitpig i tells ya

May 17, 2004 2:31 PM

TJ says:

ohh all his testosterone and anomosity is really scary, how on earth do you cope with it Tanai ?

aint it funny how brave people are in print.

June 8, 2004 11:42 PM

SiLeakHunt says:

Coming from the UK you get a lot of aging ladies going to the Gambia and the Dominican Republic to get satisfied by nigger boys. I say good luck to them.

June 23, 2004 7:59 PM

jdman says:

STFU and CH....TOAST! Well done TK! As for sunglasses...go back to gobbling blue hearts and pick pricks in the locker room.

August 25, 2004 7:07 AM

jdman says:

Opps.....that's 'pink pricks' sunglasses unless you like them big and black.

August 25, 2004 7:14 AM

Try says:

I have a bit of a thing for asian men,
do you recon any of them hunt for wives in the west? The illustrative photo in the article is nasty, i am in my 20s, and sick of being treated crappily by machos here, do you recon an asian husband would be more submissive and respectful towards a woman who earns a good living in her profession?

July 8, 2006 7:53 AM

bkk thai man says:

Try,

to answer your question, i think most asian men will not make submissive husbands, but many will treat you in an equal and fair manner. of course, some asian husbands are macho. so i guess there is good and bad in every race and culture.

i take it from reading your post, that you have never dated a thai guy before. that is a pity. i know of several thai guys, who have dated farang women, in Bangkok, including myself. (to all you guys who are wondering, the farang girl i dated was not old nor did she pay me. she was attractive and in her late 20's and we both paid for our dates) i love farang girls, they're such fun!

the only advice i can give you is to date some thai guys, and try us out. i'm sure you won't regret it.

July 8, 2006 12:55 PM

Jose says:

Always remember this. Its not the size of your tool that matters. Its how you use it. And may I ask whats wrong with older chicks wanting to get laid?? I actually like older chicks,especially asian chicks. some of the best pussy I had was from a Thai girl in her 50's. :-)

Cheers!

August 19, 2006 6:52 AM