May 2 2004
My bizarre Stickman ordeal

Some readers have accused me of giving Stickman a hard time but this isn't true. It would be fair to say, however, that I don't owe the guy any favours and, today, I'll explain why.
Because the practice is mutually beneficial, webmasters of related sites often exchange links. Given that we're ideal link-partners, I wrote to Stickman last September to float the idea. At first, he responded positively but later he went back on his word and sent me some peculiar emails.
Hi Stickman
I recently started a blog about my own Thailand experience called Mango Sauce. Maybe you and your readers would like to take a look.
I would be really grateful if you could feature the following extract (See My wife is a minger. Should I run away to Thailand?) in your weekly column or Readers' Submissions section (or both). I have already included a review of your website here.
Cheers
David
He replied to me the very same day.
David,
Thanks for the email - very nice little piece indeed which I'll be happy to put into the column. The only thing is, while I am happy to give you a link elsewhere, I am unable to do so in the column. Please advise if this is ok. The reason being that some people pay a premium for advertising in the column and do not think it fair that others get free links. So, can provide a link from elsewhere, but not the column....Cheers,
Stick
Naturally, I agreed to his terms.
Hi Stick
I take your point. An inclusion in the Readers' Submissions section with the URL would be fine. If you also want to feature it in your column without a credit, you could reproduce the quiz up to item 5 with a note to explain that the rest of it appears in the Readers' Submissions section. This would give your readers a laugh, publicise my site and avoid upsetting the advertisers. How does that sound?
Cheers
David
Then I heard nothing for a week so I sent him a reminder.
Hi Stickman
Did you mislay the text of this one? An entry in your Readers' Submissions section would be much appreciated.
Cheers
David
Again, nothing appeared and, a week later, he sent me this rather terse reply.
David,
Sorry for delay in getting back to you as I have been very busy. Could you expand on this a bit as it is still a bit too short for a full reader's submission.
Cheers,
Stick
What Stickman had once described as "a very nice little piece indeed" was now judged unworthy of inclusion. Lengthening the article would only have ruined it so I sent him a different one instead
Hi Stick
Maybe this article would be more suitable for a submission. (See Make a tit of yourself in a Thai gogo bar).
Cheers
David
Again, nothing happened and I waited 2 weeks before sending him another reminder.
Hi Stickman
Perhaps my last email didn't reach you. I would be grateful if you could put the following article in your Readers Submissions section (See How to make a tit of yourself in a go-go bar).
Cheers
David
Three days later, he sent me this curious rejection/offer.
David,
After much consideration. and believe me, it took me a lot ot reach this decision, I regret to advise that I am unable to post your article. The problem is the link that you request at the bottom. The request is PERFECTLY REASONABLE, but the problem is, if I post this article with your link, then it is only fair that I do so for others, and if I do so for others, then the people who actually pay for links may get annoyed - or even choose to no longer advertise and instead simply write an article to gain exposure. Sure, the exposure gained from one readers' submissions would not be the same as a paid link elsewhere on the site, but it would still be effective. With this in mind, I suggest the following. If you would like the piece posted, I would be happy to do so with the website listed as the address where the author can be contacted. Thus, anyone clicking on it would be taken straight to your page.
I'm sorry about this and do not wish to appear difficult, but I must put the best interests of the site first. hope you understand.
Cheers,
Stick
This was no problem for me so I agreed.
Hi Stick
I understand your dilemma and look forward to seeing the article posted in the manner that you suggest. It had already crossed my mind that this might be the most appropriate format.
Thanks for your help. It is appreciated.
Cheers
David
In spite of Stickman's written assurances, my reader's submission failed to appear yet again. Obviously, the guy was a time-waster so I decided to call it a day at that point.
It did cross my mind to remove my link to him in protest but I'm not particularly interested in tit-for-tat silliness and his link-exchange refusal doesn't bother me that much anyway. A straight and timely answer would have been helpful, though.
I'm not quite sure what I did to upset the great Stickman but I think we can safely assume that Hell will freeze over before Mango Sauce gets a mention on his website.
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